We can learn many things from movies – and that includes what NOT to do. Losing your virginity is not one of the topics the screen media does awfully well. What should be one of the most special moments in your life is usually reduced to a comedic episode with many of its factors blown out of proportion to get the laugh. These are not movies to watch to learn the finer points about a first sexual encounter, but they do raise some issues all virgins (and non-virgins) should know of.
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1. American Pie (1999)
This has to be one of the very best movies about losing your virginity of all time. This coming-of-age comedy shares the story of a group of friends in their senior year who decide to lose their virginity by prom night. It manages to be charming even though you will watch so much weird stuff happening. Yes, it's vulgar but heartwarming and is definitely a movie every girl should watch.
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2. Very Good Girls (2013)
So many teen movies are based on the exploits of the male sex in pursuance of losing their virginity. This movie puts attention on the girls. It is about two best friends who fall in love with the same guy and want him for their first sexual experience. The situations are hilarious yet relatable. It has a breezy but bittersweet and somewhat nostalgic vibe. Yes, it may not be the perfect teen movie, but it tackles the topic of virginity well and maintains a great spirit throughout the movie. Dakota Fanning and Elizabeth Olsen make it watchable.
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Frequently asked questions
These movies can create unrealistic expectations and unnecessary pressure. Real-life experiences are very different from what's shown in films, and it’s better to approach your own journey with a clear mind.
Absolutely, some movies handle the topic with care and sensitivity. They often focus on the importance of consent, communication, and being ready. Films like 'The First Time' show a more balanced view.
It's totally normal! Remember, everyone’s journey is unique. Talk to a trusted friend or a mentor. Communication is key to alleviate any pressure you might feel.
Real people, hands down. Talking to someone you trust can provide realistic and supportive advice. Movies can be fun, but they often dramatize situations for entertainment.
There are several great resources: health educators, doctors, and trusted online platforms like Planned Parenthood. They offer factual and non-judgmental information.
3. The Virgin Suicides (1999)
If you want to watch a movie that shares a disarmingly poetic perspective of female adolescence, you should watch The Virgin Suicides. The movie revolves around five sisters with a super strict family background. The story takes a dark turn when one of the sisters loses her virginity. Unfortunately, the guy ends up being a jerk and tragedy ensues. How the lives of the other sisters get affected is what makes this movie worth watching. Yes, it may not be the happiest movie in this list, but it deserves its place.
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4. Easy a (2010)
It's among one of the finest movies about losing your virginity – and it talks about other issues, including double standards, gender discrimination and friendship. The story is about how a young girl helps her friend, who is overly concerned about not being able to lose his virginity, by lying that she "had sex" with him. This makes others call her "a slut" and she starts taking it as an opportunity to get gifts and become popular. The movie doesn't rely on gross out moments like other teen movies. It's genuinely funny, thanks to a lively script and great cast. Those of you in the know will get “The Scarlet Letter” influence.
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5. Little Darlings (1980)
The ‘80s was a glorious decade for teen movies. Some were incredible blockbusters, others just entered the general melee. Sitting somewhere in the middle, Little Darlings is the story of two girls determined to lose their virginity to their respective partners. This is worth watching for its attention to how sex can become a game and a competition. Watch it to see what and who triumphs in the end.
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6. Cruel Intentions (1999)
In a modern take of Les Liaisons Dangereuses/Dangerous Liaisons, Cruel Intentions is a story of pursuit, temptation and resolve. The protagonists in the triangle are bad boy Sebastian, who wants to seduce Annette, a virgin who wants to wait until marriage to lose her virginity, his cohort (and step-sister) Kathryn, who is manipulative and vengeful, and the object in her plan, naive and sheltered Cecile. Telling you what happens will simply spoil the plot. It’s a fascinating interplay between people whose sexual aims clash.
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7. Fast Times at Ridgemont High (1982)
Another of the seminal '80s teen flicks, Fast Times sticks in my head for the scene involving a girl learning how to give oral sex on a carrot. Besides that, I think this is a great movie for girls because it shows it’s not just young guys who are horny, curious and impatient. It also shows how sex can be a letdown.
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Are you willing to tell us if your first time was anything like these virginal encounters in the movies?
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